Housing advisor explains: Different, But Equal
In this article series, a Hoas housing advisor introduces one of the Safely together principles – what it means in practice, and how you can help create a safe and respectful atmosphere in Hoas homes through your own actions.
We are different but always equal
Gender, nationality, religion, sexual orientation, values, health – none of these make anyone better or worse than someone else. Everyone deserves equal treatment.
Living in shared spaces means we share places, ideas, and daily life with people who might be very different from us – but that doesn’t mean we are unequal. We are all individuals with our own backgrounds, but as tenants, we stand on equal ground and all deserve the same respect and appreciation.
Different cultural backgrounds, values, genders, religious beliefs, and sexual orientations can bring a wide range of perspectives to everyday life and cohabitation. When one approaches difference with an open mind, their worldview can expand and become enriched. At the same time, it opens up the possibility to see life from entirely new perspectives. Prejudices are often exaggerated or mistaken beliefs that begin to fade when we get to know people from different backgrounds and their realities.
Anyhow, sometimes these differences may lead to misunderstandings. It’s important to remember they are never a reason to hurt or disrespect one another. When we remember that we are all equal, we can avoid attitudes that may lead to prejudice or discrimination.
Practical Tips for Residents
- Be open and curious: When you meet a new flatmate who is very different from you, don’t be afraid to ask questions and listen to their background. New experiences can open your eyes and offer valuable perspectives.
- Avoid assumptions: Don’t assume things about someone’s lifestyle or culture. What’s obvious to you might not be to someone else. Open conversations and questions can prevent misunderstandings.
- Establish shared ground rules: Talk early on about what matters most in shared living – such as cleanliness, quiet time, and privacy. This way, everyone can express their wishes and expectations without feeling disrespected or ignored.
Example
If one of your flatmates has come from another country to study and has the habit of taking time for prayer at specific times, respect their needs and, if necessary, discuss how to ensure it doesn’t interfere with your own routine. By understanding why this is important to them, you can find shared ways to live together peacefully.
The Safely together principles and article series are part of Hoas’s commitment to sustainability. We want to ensure that every tenant has the right to live equally, fairly, and as their authentic self.